The power of vulnerability

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o

The only variable that separates the people who have a sense of worthiness, a strong sense of love and belonging, and folks who struggle for it, folks who are always wondering if they’re good enough, is that people who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they’re worthy of love and belonging. That’s it.

Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.

They believe they’re worthy. The hard part that keeps us out of connection is our fear that we’re not worthy of connection. People living from this deep sense of worthiness are kind of whole-hearthed people. What they have in common is a sense of courage, from the Latin word “cor” meaning “hearth”. The original definition was to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart. These people have the courage to be imperfect. They have the compassion to be kind to themselves first, and then to others. They have connection as a result of authenticity. They are willing to let go of who they think they should be in order to be who they are. They fully embrace vulnerability. They believe that what made them vulnerable made them beautiful. They don’t talk about vulnerability being comfortable, they just talk about it being necessary. They talk about

the willingness to say “I love you” first,

the willingness to do something where there are no guarantees,

the willingness to invest in a relationship that may or may not work out.

They think this is fundamental.

Uncertainty is an uncomfortable position. But certainty is an absurd one.

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything -all the external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure- these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart. No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet, death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it, and that is how it should be, because death is very likely the single best invention of life. It's life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new.

[ The Life-Changing Advice I Wish I Knew in My 20s point 2. ]

They way to live is with vulnerability, to stop controlling and predicting.

https://youtu.be/e257BL851Uw

https://youtu.be/ZkDaKKkFi6Y

vulnerability = uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure

the willingness of show up and to be seen even when there are no guarantees

https://youtu.be/8-JXOnFOXQk

Man in the Arena

Man in the Arena Speech - Theodore Roosevelt 1910

Roosevelt's "The Man in the Arena"

It’s not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the does of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

— Theodore Roosevelt

https://youtu.be/_UoMXF73j0c

https://youtu.be/psN1DORYYV0

https://youtu.be/RZWf2_2L2v8

[Your first workout will be bad. Your first podcast will be bad. Your first speech will be bad. Your first video will be bad. Your first ANYTHING will be bad.

but you cant make your 100th without making your first.

So put your ego aside, and start.](https://danielfalbo.notion.site/Your-first-workout-will-be-bad-Your-first-podcast-will-be-bad-Your-first-speech-will-be-bad-Your--02ab8873539b4b11815f7806c2ecf9e3)