https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EYncNbM9HMs&list=WL&index=1

• People who are afraid of being alone make some very wrong choices around the company they keep. They have no option but to privilege anyone over the appropriate one.
  • The only souls with any realistic chance of ending up with the partner they deserve are those who have properly reconciled themselves to the prospect of perhaps never being with anyone at all.
• One is always at the mercy of the one who fears loneliness less.
• For those who have too lightly signed away their freedoms, there are sure to be constant, and searing, reminders of what they have foregone. Every party and every walk down a busy street will provide evidence of what might have been, all those potentially fascinating or charming members of humanity, they have now forever been disbarred from getting to know — because they were so unnaturally scared of having a bed to themselves for a few more years.
• It isn’t just other people we won’t get to know, it’s also ourselves. The constant presence of companions stops us from making friends with our own minds and exploring our feelings and ideas in a way that only extended stretches of solitude allow. We use another person to distract us whenever any slightly painful or challenging internal matter comes into view. There ends up being so much we won’t ever really feel or understand about ourselves, so many big questions about our career and our ultimate purpose that we will ignore because there was always someone else on hand to chat to about what to order for dinner.

Being alone never means there is something wrong with us, just that we’re being appropriately patient, until what truly satisfies us shows up (if it ever does); we have a choice; we’ve not been punished.

We will never learn the true promise of community, discover our own interests or hold out for the connections we deserve until we make genuine peace with the prospect of a life by ourselves.

Reasons to Remain Single